When my husband died unexpectedly I was in shock for months. I was sad, confused, and wondering how I was ever going to be happy again. Three years later the everyday sadness had faded away, but in its place was a realization. That realization was that I had "low self worth" and his dying not only exposed it, but showed how prevalent it was in almost every area of my life. Even your kids perceived failures become yours. It struck me at one of my daughter's volleyball games that I was having an angry visceral reaction when I thought she was being treated unfairly. You think everyone sees you and even your kids as failures, because that's how you see yourself. Over the last year this feeling became so unbearable, I knew I had to do something different. First, I worked to uncover where this comes from, then I worked to rewire this thinking. It was hard but after a year, I finally made progress and know I am good enough, as I am, as a widow and single mother to my kids.